In the spirit of Mother's Day, who best to highlight than my own mom?! Over the past 32 years, she's shared many lessons that have impacted my everyday life.
Below are the top 5 that come to mind:
1. "Open Your Own Business"
My mom, Belinda has always had an entrepreneurial spirit and hustle. When I was 8 years old, she started Tran Painting and went door-to-door spray painting addresses on driveway curbs using numbered stencils. From there, she picked up a contract to paint apartments in a 130 unit complex, all while maintaining a full-time job in the industrial supply industry. When I was 16 years old, she went all-in with her partner and developed one of the largest residential painting companies in Northeast Ohio. Within the last couple years, she's expanded the company to Florida and became a licensed real estate agent. She has always insisted my brother and I open our own businesses. She said, "working for yourself, is the only way to get rich". This was a motivating factor in leaving my corporate job and diving into a career in fitness and creating my own brand. Besides the financial rewards, there's tons of flexibility and complete control of your own destiny. With that said, I work 80 hours a week to avoid working 40, but it's ALL WORTH IT!
2. "Family Is Most Important"
9 out of my last 10 flights have been to Cleveland or Florida to visit family. Believe me, I love a blue water vacation but if I'm going to take time off of work (unpaid), there's no place I'd rather be than laughing in my Mom's kitchen while she's making French toast and burning vegan sausage patties.
3. "Happiness is Key"
Gratitude is the path to happiness. Whenever I'm stressed or disappointed in life, my mom has always reminded me to be grateful for simple everyday things. With time, I've begun to recognize my appreciation not just at the end of the day, but when things actually occur.
4. "You can't have EXPECTATIONS of people"
The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. Whether you're in a relationship or friendship, tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce frustration in both your life and theirs. My mom has always said "loving and respecting people means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate them for who they are." Bruce Lee summed it up best: "I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations and you're not in this world to live up to mine."
5. "Be Generous"
There are the obvious ways to be generous like giving lavish gifts, picking up the bill with friends, or huge tips. My mom taught me another way to be generous - by taking time to invest in potential. When we make an intentional choice to personally lead and mentor others, we contribute to their personal and professional growth. Every great leader at one point has been inspired by another great leader.
Happy Mother's Day!